How fruitful is investing in your partner to your child ?

Elsa, five year old girl is unhappy hearing her teacher saying goodbye and wishing all the children good luck for next day at school.  While rest all the students are  jumping out of their seats to get back to their homes. 

John, a twelve year old prefers eating in his bedroom. He avoids dinning with family. 

Lara, a sever year old whose parents are cabin crew members, knows no bound for her joy when she get to play with both of them together finally after 4 days. 

Paul, a two year old is jumping and giggling all around in his bedroom, playing and cuddling with mom dad. 


Are you able to sense how parents are affecting their children’s life ! We all as parents try our best to give best to our kids. Infact We are ready to die for them. But are we ready to live for them ? Live happily not survive I mean. 

We work 24*7 to earn handsome amount of money to give them with all the luxuries and invest for their future ! Fixed deposits, reoccurring deposits, insurances, funds and what not ! But where is the investment for their good mental health? Are we investing somewhere for their happiness ? 


Family systems theory suggests that children’s development is intrinsically related to interactions among other actors within the family (Bronfenbrenner, 1979). The mother–father relationship is often perceived to be at the center of this system, influencing all aspects of family functioning (Easterbrooks & Emde, 1988). Therefore, parents’ ability to communicate effectively, respect towards each other, generate emotional closeness, and support each other’s decisions likely has implications for their children’s well-being and development.



How is your relationship affecting your child ? 

Parental conflict is harmful to kids, however, when it is frequent; when it is heated and hostile, involving verbal insults and raised voices; when parents become physically aggressive; when parents withdraw from an argument or give each other the silent treatment; when the conflict seems to threaten the intactness of the family; and when it\"s about the child.


From a very early age—as young as six months, some researchers say—children show distress when their parents fight. Their reactions can include fear, anger, anxiety, and sadness, and they are at higher risk of experiencing a variety of health problems, disturbed sleep, and difficulty in focusing and succeeding at school. They may "externalize" their distress in the form of "aggression, hostility, anti-social and non-compliant behaviour, delinquency and vandalism," or "internalize" it in the form of "depression, anxiety, withdrawal and dysphoria."


Building a strong and positive mental health in children begins from investing in your partner. 

Shower love and respect: How about your child thinks that his parents love each other the most? This will inculcate the meaning of love in them. They will feel secure with you. And would love to be with you for most of the time. Watching you respecting your partner will tell them what to expect and what to give. 


Set an example for perfect marriage : The nearest couple to observe and to learn from  what marriage is about is of yours. From smallest thing like managing house to solving problems and coming out even stronger. Be a role model of good couple for them. Your child should know from you what he/she should seek in their future partners. 


Proper conversation : Talking it out and solving is no less than a therapy. Well it’s hard to hide the fights from your child. Why not tell them, that if there parents fight , they solve it out too. Show them that you consider your partner’s view point too. Let them learn affective problem solving from you. 


Date your mate: Well it’s not just a philosophy but something that really needs to be considered. Your children will be proud to have you as their parents especially when they are in the age of understanding how crucial is really the better half to live the better life. 


To all the parents , you are the first ones who are given a chance to form the character of your child. You are their first teacher, counsellor and guide.!
        “Children love THE LOVE.”





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