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“Around  3:00 a.m. on a red eye. Still half asleep, I suddenly felt suffocated. I noticed my hands were trembling. I was fighting with myself to inhale more oxygen. Actually trying to breathe deeply. It didn’t help. I looked down to find my legs shaking terribly as well. Not wanting to disturb my husband sleeping next to me, I got up and locked myself in the other room. I thought I was having a seizure. I puked . Felt numb. Those few minutes were like days. Anyhow they passed while praying to god to grant me with a long life.  Well I don’t want this to happen again . Ever! “ One of the core features of panic disorder is recurrent, unexpected panic attacks. A panic attack is an abrupt surge of physical symptoms such as chest pain, palpitations, sensations of shortness of breath, feelings of choking, and dizziness/unsteadiness, which can be accompanied by intense discomfort and/or fear of dying/fear of losing control. People with panic attack may have/feel: • Sudden and repeat...

Is giving punishment Okie or Not ?  Where did we ever get the crazy idea that in order to make children do better, first we have to make them feel worse? Think of the last time you felt humiliated or treated unfairly. Did you feel like cooperating or doing better?” –Jane Nelsen There are many myths related to parenting, but perhaps the biggest myth is that punishment changes the behavior of children. No one wants to raise children who don’t listen. When our children defy us, we want to stop their bad behaviour as fast as possible. And when we punish children, we typically see the behaviour stop. When we achieve our desired outcome temporarily, all seems well. And the next time when our child misbehaves we punish him again. We repeat our behavior the same way our child do. This reoccurrence of his misbehaviour is because we didn’t replaced his misbehaviour into the acceptable one! We usually forget that change in behaviour can’t be done in just one go but takes time.  Do You kn...

 Why your child doesn’t listens to you ?  First off, it is going to be okay. This is natural for this stage of the life of a child. Joseph Shrand, M.D., said, “Instead, take a step back and recognise that your child isn’t purposely trying to undermine you — he’s just acting his age,” From time to time most children defy the wishes of their parents. This is a part of growing up and testing adult guidelines and expectations. It is one way for children to learn about and discover their own selves, express their individuality, and achieve a sense of autonomy. As they stretch their independent wings and engage in minor conflicts with their parents, they discover the boundaries of their parents\" rules and of their own self-control. Just because your child isn\"t listening to you doesn\"t mean they don\"t feel close to you.  Sometimes, however, these conflicts are more than occasional disturbances and become a pattern for how parents and children interact. Disobedience ca...

Social Anxiety !  When fear of how you appear gets in the way of functioning Twelve-year-old Girl says she wants to be friends with two kids in her class, but she “freezes” every time they ask her to join them. Fifteen-year-old Boy loves to build things and can spend hours in his room making mechanical toys. He’s  been invited to join the Robotics Club but absolutely refuses to go. Do any of these kids sound like your child? If so, it’s not uncommon. Many children and adults worry excessively about social interactions. This is especially true during adolescence. Social anxiety isn’t limited to avoiding fun-sounding activities. It can also play a big role in kids refusing to go to school. What is Social Anxiety Disorder ?  Social Anxiety Disorder is the third most common mental health condition. It’s a pernicious disorder. Someone, some thing, or some idea has infected your child’s thought processes to convince him/her  that he is  not as good as other people. ...

What is child potential ?  Each and every child is unique and special. All children are gifted with a unique set of talents and potential, in which they may shine and excel. Every child is distinctly talented and no two children can or should be compared.  They are blessed with their own special individuality. Most often, parents fail to recognise these abilities in their children and push them into something which is not their forte. As parents, we are anxious about the well being of our children. We want the best for our children and desire that they be successful and happy in life. In our anxiousness, we tend to push them into a rat race and we fail to recognise their true potential. In order to help our children be happy and successful we need to embrace their individuality and recognise their abilities. Children naturally do the things they love to do without prompting, so you should be able to determine their talents by simply observing them for awhile. However, children...

All you need to know about depression in children.  It's normal for kids to feel sad, down, or irritated, or to be in bad moods from time to time. But when negative feelings and thoughts linger for a long time and limit a child's ability to function normally, it might be depression. Depression is a type of mood disorder. The main sign is when kids are sad, discouraged, or irritable for weeks, months, or even longer. Another sign a kid might have depression is negative thinking. This includes focusing on problems and faults, being mostly critical and self-critical, and complaining a lot. Depression can interfere with energy, concentration, sleep, and appetite. Kids with depression may lose interest in activities and schoolwork, seem tired, give up easily, or withdraw from friends or family. When kids have depression, it's hard for them to make an effort, even when doing things they used to enjoy. Depression can make kids feel worthless, rejected, or unlovable. It can make ev...